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How to Plan an Elopement: 10 Dos and Dont's

Updated: Mar 26, 2020

If you're thinking of eloping but have questions on the mind, we're here to help

Is the idea of a large wedding just not your thing? Perhaps you and your fiancé are the super spontaneous types always looking for an unconventional adventure. Possibly trying to save money for your new life together. Whatever your reason, figuring out how to elope can quickly make the process feel more like a scary. If you are feeling a little stressed planning your elopement we're here to help.

1) DO: Remember it’s Your Wedding!

You’re eloping for a reason that likely involves simplicity and intimacy. It’s important to remember that you should have the power to tailor your wedding package to your liking. An experienced and reputable team will help you tailor your ceremony to fit your personal style and do everything in their power to make your day just how you hoped.

2) DON’T feel obligated or pressured to invite anyone.

The beauty of an elopement is that you and your partner are the only people required to be there, and anyone else is extra. That means if you want to just bring a couple of parents for witnesses, you can- no guilt. And your sweet Great Aunt Betty? She doesn’t need to be there, unless YOU want her there. While it is completely natural to feel guilty, you shouldn’t feel you have to justify your decision to anyone.

3) DO ask for discretion.

Whichever way you choose to invite guests to your elopement, make sure you include that your plans are meant to be kept as quiet as possible. The last thing you want is for word of your plans to spread through the grapevine- along with Great Aunt Betty’s hurt feelings- and find yourself fielding calls from people who weren’t invited asking for all of the details.

4) DON’T forego a budget. Even elopements can get expensive without a budget.

So, make sure to make a list and stick with what is important to you and your betrothed. Make sure to distinguish your needs from your wants. Prioritize your items on the list, and once the budget is met you will know where to stop spending.

5) DO make the most of your savings.

A common reason for eloping is that the costs of a larger traditional wedding an easily get out of hand. Make the most of elopement cost savings and treat yourselves to something that you both want or need to start off your life together.

6) DON’T forget the marriage license.

This is something that you will need to get in advance of the ceremony. So, remember to bring it with you on your elopement! You will most definitely need this document to legally finalize your wedding day.

7) DO stay authentic to yourselves.

Just because you are not having a big traditional wedding doesn’t mean you can’t express yourselves. Make sure the experience is what you and your partner want. It can reflect your lifestyle and say a lot about you as a couple.

8) DON’T get caught up in the minor details.

There are A LOT of parts to a conventional wedding, that you probably don’t care about and that is partly why you might be eloping. The details of an elopement can be counted on one hand. They are only the most important details of what you need. Remember to focus on what makes you both really happy and nothing else.

9) DO go on a honeymoon.

Just because you didn’t surround yourself with your closest 300 family and friends, it doesn’t mean that you should stop yourself from booking that Mediterranean cruise. The hype of your vows doesn’t come from your audience, it comes from you and your partner. Make sure to celebrate.

10) DON’T feel guilty about eloping.

Eloping is about putting more focus on the two of you, instead of the wedding, and that is what is most important. Once you have made the decision, don’t look back. Trust in what you and your partner have decided and move forward towards your blissful life together.


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